I’m Going To Try Again

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When I first arrived here in October, I wrote a blog about how I joined a Spanish class in a University; 1 hour a day, 5 days a week. I explained how I didn’t enjoy the class and I didn’t want to continue going to it. You can read about it here: No, It Didn’t Go Well

So anyway, I ended up not going to the classes and I just studied on my own for the past 5 months. I began to get frustrated with my lack of progress and got angry with myself because I just can’t learn the language, so there were days where I really did want to just quit!

I started realising that in order to improve my Spanish, I’d have to go back to having Spanish classes. I guess the first experience just kind of put me off going to classes. I really didn’t enjoy myself, I didn’t particularly like the teacher, and I was apprehensive about going to another one and it ended up the same. So that’s why I never tried again.

Plus they are just SO expensive! I wanted to come to Mexico to learn the language, I come, and then I realise I can’t even join any because they are too expensive. That annoyed me as well, I can’t even go to to classes because I can’t afford it.

So I started looking around online for private companies and of course there a loads. There’s one literally down the road from me, but of course I can’t afford to go.

While we were driving we saw a language school that we decided to look at. It’s about €11 for 1 hour (still expensive I might add) but I don’t have to pay for 20 hours a week like in the other schools.

We decided to go for a try class of 15 minutes to see what it was like. The house is nice with a good atmosphere, plus they have a cute puppy and a very fat cat sleeping in the porch. (We thought it was pregnant but it’s actually a male).

I met the teacher and she asked me a few things about myself and what she would be teaching me. She said that she plans on doing conversation exercises, which I definitely need. I really like the teacher and I was very happy with the short class.

And……

One thing that I do realise…….. I have improved since October and my first try class with the other teacher!

In my first experience, I could hardly speak; I didn’t know the conjugations of verbs whatsoever, I didn’t understand pretty much any of her questions, and I could hardly string a basic sentence together about myself.

This time round it was a totally different experience; I could understand pretty much all of what the teacher asked me, I was able to conjugate some verbs (I’m still quite terrible at them though), I could easily explain my life in China, what I did, where I lived, about my husband, and it was just shocking that I was actually able to talk to her in a conversation!

During it, I was thinking to myself “God I’m actually talking to her….. I can hold a conversation with her…. I definitely wasn’t able to do this with the first class I had in October…. I have improved!”

I know I would have improved faster if I went to classes, but with the wedding coming up, the lack of jobs for both of us, expenses that we didn’t count on having… I just didn’t want to spend over €400 a week for classes. I just can’t afford it.

So with this current teacher, I go for 2 hours a week. It’s definitely not as good as 20 hours, but it’s something at least. Maybe when I get a job I’ll be able to try one of those immersion classes.

But for now, 2 hours makes me more than happy!

Aisling

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Loneliness

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I’ve always been a person who favours my own company. I’m quite happy being by myself and I don’t feel the need to be surrounded by people.

But now that I’m in Mexico… I feel lonely.

I feel lonely because I’ve no friends.

I feel lonely when my family in Ireland don’t write back to me.

I feel lonely when people come over, converse in Spanish, and I don’t understand.

I feel lonely sitting at the table not being able to contribute to any conversation.

I feel lonely not being included.

I feel lonely because I can’t laugh at any jokes.

I feel lonely not being able to do things when I want to.

I’ve moved from China to Mexico and I feel as lonely as ever.

Aisling

I Can Legally Stay In Mexico!

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So, it’s official, I’m on my way to becoming Mexican! My application for becoming a temporary residence has been accepted, so that’s another thing from our list to check off! Apparently it would take 15-20 days for it to be processed but I unexpectedly received an email about 7 days later. I’m sure because I married a Mexican really speeded things up. We were offered a 1 year visa or a 2 year visa, but we opted for a 1 year one. We aren’t sure what are plans are so we thought it would be safer going for the 1 year one.

The whole thing was simple enough too. We just had to fill in some things, get photos taken, copies taken of documents, pay the fees, and of course the most important thing; the marriage cert.

Before I had a tourist visa  that would have meant I would have to leave next month. When we visited Ireland my husband (boyfriend at the time) could only stay 3 months, and then he wasn’t allowed back for another 6 months!! I however could happily stay in Mexico for 6 months with my tourist visa!

My new visa doesn’t let me work however, so to be able to get a job, I will either have to say that I’m working independently and they will sort out tax from that, or I will have to have a letter to work from a company. I have to have a job first before I can apply for a work permit. So it’s a little annoying but hopefully it won’t be a big problem for me.

Also the process of actually me becoming a Mexican citizen is also very easy (in comparison to Ireland!) It would be cool to say I’m Mexican, but I think I need to at least be able to speak Spanish!

So our list is slowly getting smaller, and now I can legally stay here in Mexico, for 1 year anyway!

Aisling

My Husband Speaks English TOO Well!

 

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So, you would think that me being with a Mexican person I would pick up Spanish just like that…. well…..

No…. if ONLY it was like that! You see the problem with our relationship is that my husband is pretty much a native English speaker….. only that he looks Mexican and grew up in the country. His English is perfect and doesn’t have an accent at all. He actually never studied abroad or anything like that and just studied it when he was young, which amazes me!

So….. him being able to converse perfectly with me creates a problem when I’m trying to learn Spanish.

When we met in China, I didn’t have the urge to learn the language, I didn’t even know if I would be with him long! Then when it became 3+ years together I thought “Oh hang on, I think I’ll actually have to learn it now”.

While in China, I was busy studying Chinese and I just didn’t want to get the two languages mixed up, so that was the main reason for not studying it. Plus I didn’t need Spanish at the time. So throughout our time in China we always spoke English to each other.

Then when we arrived to Mexico, he STILL talked to me in English. I had to remind him “In Spanish….in spanish..” and then he would say it again. Our relationship for over 4 years was completely in English, so now it was just difficult for him to switch to Spanish. He’s too used to speaking English with me.

So this is a big problem!

I think now he’s getting used to speaking more to me in Spanish, but it’s still very common to hear him talking to me in English. And it would be simple things he would say to me in English and I would think “He can easily just say that in Spanish and I would be able to understand”

I understand pretty much everything that he says to me, so there’s no problem with me not understanding…. it’s just this habit that we’ve picked up.

Sometimes I wish his English was crap so then I’d be forced to learn it, but then I think “Well if his English wasn’t good then he wouldn’t have gone to China and taught English… I wouldn’t even have met him if that was the case”.

We will break this habit one day!

Aisling