Being A Mature Student

When I was 18 I started a 4 year course and there were a few Mature Students with me. They were about 29 years old, with one being in his late 40’s I think. I remember thinking “Oh they are way older than me… 29 years old and they are doing a course with me!” I wouldn’t say that I thought they were ‘old’; just way older than me. They were ‘mature’ and ‘knew what they were doing’ kind of people.

Now 9 years later I’m one of these ‘way older people’. It’s crazy how life kind of repeats itself but in a different way. Back then I never thought that I would be a mature student. My plan was to have a house, be married and have children by 30. Well, I got the husband part right anyway!

Because I left Ireland I’ve lost touch with all of my friends from the course except for one. So I decided to search their names on Facebook to see what they were at and I realised that they have now aged and don’t look like their 29 year old self that I remember! One has receding hair, more wrinkles and just looks more like his age now, of about 40 years old. I’m in his position after 9 years, so in another 9 years I’ll be more like him. The students that are in my class are 18 and 19 years old. So in 9 years I’ll be 39 and they’ll be my age! I suppose when you are surrounded by people your own age you don’t realise that you are growing older. It’s only really when you are with younger and older people that you notice more.

One of my classmates was shocked when she heard I was 29 and married! She said “You don’t look 29 at all! You look like our age!” I was chuffed to hear that actually! Theres also some bad things about being a mature student like having to listen to some students that think they are deadly and give cheek to the teachers. There is one girl in my class and she curses, talks loudly, is brash, gives cheek to teachers and just thinks she is deadly. I just have to sit and ignore her because she could easily say “Wha are yeu lookin at? I’ll kick yeu in da face” if you look at her wrong.

Then there is the fact that I can’t have any deep conversations about literally anything. They are more concerned about going out every weekend and talking about a girl that they hate. I once mentioned about Trump and something that he did and one girl just replied “Oh I don’t know about that”….. So that was that!

Many of the students don’t really take the course seriously. Back then I was the same. But now I’m on limited time! I need to get my act together and sort out my life. They have another 5 years to do nothing but now I do need to knuckle down and just get this course done. They can afford to do nothing right now, oh and eat rubbish! Give it another 6 years and they won’t be able to eat all those crisps and chocolate!

One of the students told me “You always eat so healthily”. And I thought ‘Yeah, because if I don’t then I’ll get fat.’  

There is also one more thing that I never thought of when I became a mature student…… some teachers are younger than me! A new teacher started teaching us and she walked in and she was about 27/28…. and she was teaching me.

I got pretty upset about this to be honest. She sorted her life out pretty well and she’s now a full time teacher, whereas I didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do in life and here I am stuck with 18 year olds with a girl younger than me teaching me.

I really was upset. If only I knew what I wanted to do when I was 18. I could have studied hard and now I could have had a good job with a house…. or at least have a car! Instead I decided to do a course that had literally no job prospects and basically chose a bad course to do. (For 4 years mind you). I have to try and let it go though. I have to concentrate on myself and getting myself on the right path and try to ignore others. It’s very hard though, and I do regret a lot of things that I didn’t do. It’s a pity you can’t start life over again!

But anyway. I’ll get this course done and hopefully it will lead me in the right direction, preferably one with like loads of money so I can retire at 60. haha

Aisling.

Finding Work Experience

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As part of my course, I have to find 2 weeks of work experience. We need to find somewhere where we are dealing with customers so I applied for 5 places over a week ago.

I applied for one in a tourist information centre, and a few days ago I received an email saying that the dates I was looking for were booked up. I then received another email from another place and said that they were also full! I went into the local library and they said that I have to go to the council and apply through them because its a public building and it’s a big hassle now with insurance and that! So I decided not to go to the council because I”m sure it would take weeks! I haven’t heard from a Pharmacy or a hotel so I’m still waiting from them.

It’s very annoying at the moment because this was the whole reason why I done my course. I couldn’t get a job. And now I’m back looking for work experience which I’m not even getting paid for. Because the town where I live is small, there’s not many places to choose from. Then we have secondary schools and they send their Transition Year (TY) students on work experience also, which doesn’t help us. Transition Year is a year in the middle of Secondary School where students don’t really do much. They do work experience, set up a small business, go on trips and other stuff. It’s a relaxing year before they go into 5th year and study for their big exams. In my area it’s optional to do but I think in other schools it’s mandatory (I’m not 100% sure on this though). My sister did it but I didn’t. That means that that the TY’s will then join the class that was a year behind them instead of continuing on with their own class. With all the trips and things that they do my Mum found out that it was a very expensive year!

I may have to go to Dublin to do it but I don’t want to have to spend a day going up, handing out CV’s and Cover Letters and then none of them reply to me. And because I currently don’t have a car, my Dad would have to drop me to the bus station really early if I was to start at 9am in Dublin.

I just thought that it wouldn’t be this hard. And it’s times like these that I really don’t like living where I do right now.

I’ll start re-writing my Cover Letters again for more places and hopefully something will come up.

Aisling.

 

I’ve Been Busy

Since I’ve started writing this blog years ago, I’ve been trying to hit a target of 4 blogs or more per month… and this month I’ve just hadn’t had the time to write anything!

I’ve been busy writing writing essays, going to class, and usually I wake up tired because my mind just doesn’t stop racing when I go to bed, so it’s been hard to write anything here. So I do need to try and start writing something on this blog of mine!

Anyway, my course is going fine. I’ve noticed how a few of my classmates have been asking me for advice for things for the assignments. They would come over with their assignment brief and I think “Oh they want to ask me something about the assignment”. I don’t mind though at all, I know for others it’s a struggle to come up with things and they might not understand something, so I’ll try and help them if I can. I suppose because I’m the oldest as well they think “oh well she’s the oldest she’ll know”. I think I was like that too. When I was doing my degree from the age of 18 I remember I kept asking the mature students to help me with my work. I remember thinking “Well they seem to know what they are doing so I’ll get them to help me!”

I think now I’ve realised that I don’t want to stress about the essays that are due and I’d rather just get them done, so I do them. When I was younger though I always left things to the last minute, but now I just couldn’t do that! Unfortunately I get stressed much more now than when I was in college, so I want to alleviate that as much as possible! But I still like the course and I don’t mind going in so that’s good!

With regards to the weather-it’s getting colder now. Especially in the morning I really dislike having to get up in the freezing cold to get dressed. As we live in a mobile home this means when we wake up we can see our breath. I even woke up once because my ears were ice cold! We’ve taken to getting dressed in front of our gas heater; huddling together to get as much warmth as possible. haha. So this will definitely be a test of our endurance with the cold! At one stage I actually tried to get dressed while I was in the bed but that was a disaster and I took about 15 minutes. So that didn’t work at all!

I’ve started to keep the electric blanket turned on at my feet during the nights because they were very cold some nights. Thankfully the blanket allows us to turn it on only at our feet so that’s great for us. So yeah… it’s quite cold here in the mobile home!

And Halloween is just around the corner! I only just realised that I’ve never had a Halloween with my youngest nephew! It just hit me when I was watching TV that this will be my first Halloween with him, and he’s 4 already! It’s actually my first Halloween in Ireland since I left for China, so about 6 years ago I think. It’s mad how time just flies.

I also realised another thing…… I have to buy Christmas presents!!! In China we didn’t buy Christmas presents. Maybe I would buy something small for my husband (boyfriend at the time). But because of the language barrier in China, we didn’t really go out and buy things for each other. Then in Mexico my husbands family don’t really celebrate Christmas ( I know, it’s shocking!) so again we didn’t really buy presents for each other.

But now…… I have to buy them for my whole family…. and my two nephews. . . So that’s something that I will have to think about once more.

And thankfully now my husband has been working since September so we finally have money coming in. I don’t have a job at the moment but I don’t mind because I’m actually busy with my college work and I know I would just be extra stressed if I took on a job. Plus many only want full timers which I can’t do at the moment. Maybe after Christmas I will find some work in something that is beneficial to me. I’d like to get a job dealing with customers so I can get more experience working with customers. Through my course I’ve realised that customer service skills is great to have on a CV.

So anyway there’s an update on my life so far. I’ve been watching ‘Bates Motel’ on Netflix with Vera Farmiga (she’s a great actress) for the past couple of weeks before I’ve gone to sleep. I’ve been watching it in Spanish and I understand pretty much all of it. (I’ll write another post on the disappearance of my Spanish). I’ve enjoyed it so far but the last season hasn’t been great unfortunately. I’ll have to take an hour out to look at another show I can watch in Spanish when I’m finished ‘Bates Motel’.

Aisling