My Parents Have Left

My parents were here, and blink, now they are gone. Back over 12 hours on their plane to Ireland. It’s been a week since they left and the day after they flew I felt quite sad and alone. I’d have no one to drink tea with and, as my dad says “talk shite with”.

What I like about being with my Mam and Dad is that we can comfortably sit together and just not speak. Just being with each other and not having the need to speak is a nice feeling. My husbands family second name should be ‘Talkers’ because they LOVE talking. For me, I’m not a lover of talking; it tires me out to be honest. I prefer listening instead. I suppose I miss that; just sitting outside in the sun together and we are all thinking in our heads about this and that. There’s no forced need to talk, which I feel sometimes happens to my husbands family. They are so used to talking that having any silence just feels awkward.

Both of them have good and bad things about them though.

So yeah, I did miss them a lot when they first went. You know all the times I visited from China, I was never as sad as this time they went. I think it was because In China I had my own independent life, my job, my apartment, my routine to go back to.

I give out about China a lot, especially the behaviour of the people, but I really really did enjoy my life there. There are times I think of going back.

Here I’ve been unhappy for the past few months. I don’t have my own independent life, I don’t have a job, I don’t have a place to live with just me and my husband, I have the most boring routine….

(Plus we still have our obsession with dogs and still haven’t got one because, well my in-laws wouldn’t be pleased)

Yeah, I could get a teaching job earning like €3 an hour. But take out my therapist every week which is €11, then my 2 hours Spanish classes which cost about €21 for 2 hours, then thats like 2 days of work just to pay for those!

Then we have to pay for where to live and all that other stuff. So really it’s just not worth looking for a job here. I know in Mexico city there are a lot more jobs, but to be honest we really don’t want to move there. I don’t particularly like the city; it’s enormous, the traffic is the worst I’ve ever seen (and I’ve lived in China) and the pollution can get really bad too.

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Source: google

The picture above is literally every. single. day in Mexico. I’m not joking. It’s terrible and I really don’t like going to Mexico because every time we’ve went it’s like this.

So for the moment Mexico city is off the cards to live in!

Oh I’ve sort of went off topic quite a bit!! Anyway, back to my parents!

From what I gathered they liked pretty much everything about Mexico; the weather, the people, the small towns. Here are some things they didn’t like (mainly from my Dad)

The food: my dad is a traditional man…. so that means potatoes, meat and vegetables. That’s it. No spices, no condiments. Nothing. Just salt and pepper and a bit of gravy on the food. Anything exotic is a no no. HE DIDN’T EVEN LIKE MANGO!! What the hell? It’s like my favourite fruit! He said…. wait for it………

IT’S TOO SWEET!

(yeah, really)

Another thing he didn’t like were tacos. Yes I know this will be a shock to all Mexican people.

He pretty much didn’t like most Mexican food except pozole, which is a soup with corn and that. This is my favourite Mexican food.

Another thing he didn’t like were all the steps here in Cuernavaca. (it’s a hilly city) I understand this because it can get annoying, especially because they are uneven and the roads are full of holes. You need to pay attention to where you are walking.

He was shocked with the traffic too. From China I’ve gotten used to it so I don’t pay attention anymore, but coming from a small town of 40,000 people, it does take some getting used to.

My Mam on the other hand liked most foods, except tamales, which is a corn thing wrapped in the skin of something ( I really don’t have a clue what it is to be honest) I wasn’t too fussed on it at the beginning either but I grew to like it more. They are filled with different things and can be sweet or savory.

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Tamale. Source: google

I think that was pretty much everything that Mam didn’t like. She told me she misses Mexican food and she’s back to the plain Irish food now. (Irish food is definitely not famous for it’s flavour)

But I’m glad that they visited Mexico. I’m disappointed they didn’t get to see China though. See my life and what we did there. I think it’s one thing that I’m going to be disappointed about forever. China holds a lot of good memories and experiences for me that unfortunately they will never get to see.

But anyway,

Aisling

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Oh No! Rain On Our Wedding Day!

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Me and my Daddy

About 3 weeks before the wedding, I was a bit obsessed about the weather. Everyday I kept checking and checking to see if there was any change of the endless blue sky. Then I notice…… clouds…… rain……THUNDER!

Yes, apparently on the weather forecast there was supposed to be all of these things on our big day. So that was when I really started getting worried. I decided that I wouldn’t look at the weather until the wedding. I really didn’t want to worry myself. I had the whole wedding to worry about so I didn’t want to add to the list!

So my Mam and Dad came, and the weather was just as sunny as always! I was on my phone one day and I clicked on the weather app by accident! You know when you just unconsciously click on something without really doing it; well I did that and I realise ‘AHH I’M ON THE WEATHER APP!!!’

But then I notice…….. on my wedding was a lovely sun showing up! SUN!!?? What the hell??? Did the weather change??!! Is there really not going to be clouds and rain??? No thunder!?

Seeing this really really made me happier! I was put at ease then seeing that!

So, the wedding day comes and the morning is sunny as usual. At 2pm it’s time for me to get my hair and makeup done. I sit down and they start beautifying me!

Then….. while my eyes are closed I hear a strange noise…

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‘That sounds like rain’ I thought to myself.

I open my eyes. IT IS RAIN!

There’s a huge grey cloud overhead, and drops of rain keep coming, faster and faster.

Now it’s really raining. I try and stay calm. It will be ok, it’s only a burst of rain. The cloud looks like it’s going away from us. It’ll be ok Aisling. 

Then, a big roar of thunder.

Oh god, the weather app was right. I can’t believe it was right 3 weeks ago! 

Then to add to it, the hairdressers daughter came back with a hailstone to show me! Even more drama!

At this stage it was still raining and I started to worry then. I wanted to have our ceremony in the nice garden, how will the photographer be able to take any nice photos in the rain? He’s going to be limited to just the restaurant area…. Typical. It hasn’t rained since December, and on my wedding it HAS to rain!

Honestly, it hasn’t rained since about December here. I was just thinking to myself how typical it was to rain on my wedding day.

So, I just kind of resigned myself to the fact that it was going to be raining. ‘I don’t even have a nice umbrella to bring with me’ I thought!

At about 3:25 the rain finally started to stop. The big grey cloud was heading away from us, and I was happy to see the sun and blue clouds appear again!

I was hoping that that was it, there weren’t any clouds hiding from view! At 5 o’clock myself, my dad and my father in law left the house to go to the venue. The weather was back to it’s sunny ways, and for the ceremony the weather was perfect! As if it didn’t rain at all!

I really just couldn’t believe that there was rain AND THUNDER! 2 weeks after the wedding, there has not been a DROP of rain since that day!

People were telling me that rain before a wedding means good luck, so we must have gotten a tonne load of luck! Maybe it’s a good omen for our marriage too!

So, we were unlucky to get rain, but lucky that it stopped in time, but at the same time….. we were actually lucky to get rain…..??!

Confusing!

Aisling

Our Perfect Wedding Day

It’s been a week since our wedding day….. and it went absolutely perfectly! I can’t believe how great it turned out, and from what I heard, all our guests really enjoyed themselves.

I have to say it was one of the best days of my life. You always worry that at least 1 thing will go wrong on the big day, but thankfully for us it was perfect. Although we did have a scare with the weather, so I will post a separate blog about that another time.

And to my surprise, I wasn’t too nervous. I think the most nervous part was when we pulled up to the entrance in the car and I saw the videographer there with his big camera, and I started getting nervous then. I started crying a little (I think it was just the emotions and the nerves getting to me a bit), but then when me and my dad walked down the aisle I felt much better then.

I also said a few words in SPANISH! You know that was the thing I was dreading about the whole wedding, saying something in Spanish. So when I started, I just kind of blurted everything out. I don’t even remember what I said to be honest. I know it was very basic spanish and I just said thanks to everyone who came and stuff like that… nothing special, but I’m just happy I actually did it. Once that was out of the way I was much more relaxed.

Then we did a toast, took tonnes of photos (I never realised the amount of photos the bride and groom have to take) and then we headed into the eating area. There we had a group of Irish dancers who danced for everyone, then the food came. While we were eating we had a mariachi band come in to sing some songs which was nice. Finally we had our dance and then it was party time!

During the party the waiters came in and handed us balloons, masks and party sticks. I wasn’t expecting these and it was a great surprise. Then we played some typical Mexican games. It was such a fun night.

So yeah, the wedding is finally over, and it really wasn’t what I expected… it was 100 times better. My Mam and Dad also loved it. In Ireland all the weddings are inside, so it was lovely for them to be at an outdoor wedding. My Dad also said it was the best wedding he’s ever been to. (Of course he’s biased but it’s still nice to hear it).

The food was also good too, they were good sizes and they were hot. Plus the cupcakes we made were also a success!

I just loved the day and I’ll remember it forever.

Aisling

They Are On The Way!

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So after months of waiting, my parents are on their way to Mexico! Last night I didn’t really get a good night sleep. I knew they were going to the airport and my mind was half on them, half on sleep, so I didn’t really get a good rest. When I woke up I got a message to say they were in Amsterdam airport…Phew! They made it to there, and now they are on their long flight to me!

My parents haven’t travelled on a long haul flight since I was 11, so I was quite apprehensive about it all. But thankfully everything seems to be going great and they should arrive here at around 7:30pm. We will drive to Mexico airport to pick them up and we should arrive home at around 10. Then they can hopefully have a good sleep!

Also the weather seems good today. The past few days it has been cloudy and I was worried for the wedding. I don’t mind that it’s cloudy; a wedding in Ireland without rain (even if it’s really cloudy)  is good weather, so all I want is that it doesn’t rain.

I think it’s going to take some time getting used to Mum and Dad being here. For 5 year’s it has always been me who goes home to visit, so I don’t think my head is going to comprehend that they are actually here in Mexico! I’m really looking forward to seeing them and I hope they enjoy themselves.

Maybe they’ll even want to visit again!

Aisling

Getting Used To The City

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When I first came to Mexico and the city where I am staying with my in-laws, I didn’t really feel comfortable here. I wanted to try out Mexico city; there are lots of things to do, there are more foreigners, there are cheaper places to learn Spanish, and it will be easier to get a job. Although I really like Cuernavaca, where I am now…. I just thought that I would enjoy Mexico city more.

For the past few weeks now however, my attitude is changing! I think I’m settling in more and I’m getting more comfortable with my surroundings.

I know where I can buy medicines in the pharmacy, I know where the doctors and dentists are. I know which restaurants I can go to for cheap food. I know where I can get things photocopied, I know (pretty much) the layout of the centre. I know how to get to my therapist and to my spanish classes. I know more roads and where they lead to…

Although the city is much quieter than Mexico, I’m starting to like it more and more. Before I didn’t really want to find a job here, but now that I’m more familiar with the area, I feel that I actually could stay here if both of us found jobs. We’d have to rent somewhere if we plan on staying longer so that is something we would need to think about!

But at the moment, In the city I just don’t really see a job here for me. Maybe I’ll be teaching English (yet again), but there aren’t too many schools around here, except drastically overpriced schools for spanish learners.

But as always, everything isn’t concrete, so we’ll see what happens when the time comes!

Aisling

 

It’s Nearly Our Wedding Time

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It’s March….. and that means our wedding is nearly upon us! We still don’t have everything sorted, so these next few weeks we really have to organise the last details. Thankfully we’re not too worried though.

It’s just scary how the time just flew by. “Oh sure we have 3 months to organise…..8 weeks, grand….. what the hell??? 3 weeks left???!!!”

Both of us will be really happy to get this wedding over though; we have been in limbo since we came because of it, and now when it will be over we can start looking for jobs and where to live. Of course there is the honeymoon but we haven’t even thought about that; my parents are visiting so we have to organise our trip with them. So after they have gone maybe we can scrape a honeymoon with whatever money we have left.

And thankfully, our wedding will start at 5pm until 12am, which is fantastic! We chose this mainly because the venue we are having it in limits events to 7 hours, and you have to pay extra for more time. But I’m really happy with the time; it’s only half a day, it saves us money, and nobody will be too tired from it. Plus I can’t imagine being the centre of attention for a whole day!

I got a tester for my make up and hair too so that’s sorted too.The most makeup I wear is mascara, so having a face plastered with everything really took me time to get used to. I really don’t enjoy having too much make up on me, and I feel I’m going to forget during the day and rub my face! So the make-up really will be a challenge for me for the day.

I know I will feel a weight lifted off my shoulders when the day is over!

Aisling

Is Food Better Quality In Ireland Or In Mexico?

Ireland is known for it’s high quality of food, and of course when you have lived there all your life you don’t really realise or appreciate the quality. I suppose I only realised this when I lived in China and Mexico!

With regards to the food between Mexico and Ireland, I’ve began to realise which foods are better quality in Ireland than here.

Dairy– Ireland Wins

Dairy is of a much higher quality in Ireland than Mexico. The butter in Mexico really doesn’t have any flavour, it’s very hard, and I feel it’s more like margarine than butter. In Ireland it has a really rich flavour and is very creamy. Now I’m very fussy with butter, I will only eat it once it’s completely melted on something, if there is a small blob that hasn’t melted then I won’t eat that bit. I don’t know why, I just don’t like the texture or the coldness of it when it’s not melted. Once it’s completely melted though I will eat it no problem!

Once my nephew got his spoon, stuck it into the butter, took out a huge glob of it…… and put it into his mouth.

I was absolutely disgusted and I felt sick just looking at all that butter in his mouth. We asked him “Is that nice?” and he replied through a mouth full of butter “Yeah”.

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Dairygold Butter is the staple found in every Irish household

Not only is the butter better, but also milk in general is better. It’s more creamy than in Mexico. In Mexico it’s watery and doesn’t have much flavour.

For cheese, I think Mexico and Ireland are the same. Mexico makes some nice cheese; it’s different to Ireland but it’s still nice.

Meat– Ireland Wins

I have to go with Ireland for this one too. In Ireland there are butcher shops everywhere and they are usually family run. They sell all types of meat and again are of a very high quality. In Mexico I don’t think I’ve seen a butchers shop like the ones in Ireland!

In Ireland, if you wanted to make hamburgers, you would go and buy the patties that the butcher made themselves in store. They are fresh and you know the meat will be of good quality. However in Mexico I’ve seen most meat patties are frozen and prepackaged from a  company.

I feel ham is also better in Ireland. There’s just more flavour to them.

Lastly one thing I miss in Ireland are the sausages! I love the sausages in Ireland, and I’m really not fussed on the ones found here in Mexico. I can’t even consider them ‘sausages’ really! Now I might be totally wrong and there are flavourful sausages from Mexico, but from what I’ve seen these are very popular here.

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Sausage commonly found in Mexico (source google)

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Irish sausage (source google)

Bread– Ireland (yet again)

Again, the bread is just superior than in Mexico. Irish people LOVE their bread, so it’s no wonder we make so many different types of it. When there was really bad weather in Ireland last year during the winter, there was a shortage of bread!

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Source google

Now I’m not saying that there are no nice breads in Mexico, there are.  . I like the baguettes and things like that, but for everyday bread to make sandwiches with and to toast, it’s just too sweet. I’m pretty sure it’s exactly like American bread. Chinese bread was the same and I never ate it. My husband is adamant that “No, it’s not sweet at all”. But it really is. The only time I eat it is when it’s toasted. Plus it doesn’t go off for like 1 month! Like how is that even possible?! In Ireland bread starts to go mouldy after a few days! I really miss bread from Ireland.

Potatoes– You guessed it!

The potatoes are fine in Mexico, but there are really only 3 types; big ones, small ones and sweet potatoes. The potatoes you find in Mexico are what we call in Ireland ‘waxy potatoes’. They are perfect for boiling and making chips, but you can’t make them into mashed potatoes. These are called ‘Floury potatoes’ in Ireland, because when you cut into them they are dry and sort of floury like. These are perfect for making mashed potato. We have a saying in Ireland that floury potatoes are like “balls of flour”.

Incidentally sweet potatoes aren’t very popular in Ireland at all. I think maybe because they were never eaten in Ireland in the past, and also because we already have a huge variety of potatoes, we never really got used to eating it. I know it’s slowly getting more popular though, but my Mam never used them.

 

Fruit– MEXICO!

Mexico has 1 point! Fruit is much much much nicer than Ireland, it’s cheap and fresh, whereas in Ireland it’s too expensive!

I’m in love with the mangos here and there are different types which I never knew. They also have different varieties of bananas. The fruit tastes very flavourful and they definitely have more types than Ireland.

Vegetables– Ireland and Mexico

I like the veg both in Ireland and Mexico, however Ireland does have more variety. They have brussel sprouts, turnips and other types. Also the cabbage is much better in Ireland. But I’ll give Mexico another point!

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I used to hate cabbage as a child, but now I love it (source google)

I’ve realised this was a very one sided blog! I’m not bashing the food in Mexico at all, but when you’ve grown up in a country famous for it’s quality of home grown food, you really can taste the difference from other countries.

China I feel has the worst quality of food, I heard that in some restaurants, people would order rabbit and the restaurant would give them rat instead. Just take away the rabbit head and people wouldn’t know the difference!

I could do a whole blog about the food in China and how it’s not regulated, but I’ll save that for maybe another time!

(PS) my husband thought it was too one-sided, so to make him happy, here are few more foods that Mexico is better at.

Beans– Mexicans love their beans and there are loads of different types. I’m personally fed up of beans now though. In Ireland we just have the sweet beans in tomato sauce, so Mexico definitely beats Ireland with that.

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One type of Mexican beans (source google)

Corn– again Mexico loves corn, in Ireland we rarely eat it. In Mexico they use corn for tortillas. Again I’m pretty fed up of eating tortillas nearly everyday. I also prefer the flour ones; I feel the corn ones are too filling, they are harder to chew, and  when I eat with them, all I taste is the tortilla and none of the filling.

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corn tortillas (source google)

 

Aisling