I lied!

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So, my last blog I wrote about our plans for Mexico and what not….. was a lie! We have actually arrived back to Ireland at the beginning of June! My last blog was really for my Mum (she is the biggest fan of my blog) and I didn’t want her to suspect anything.  You can check it out here: Looking To The Future

After my parents left Mexico after visiting us, we decided to leave in the next few months. We realised we were in Mexico too long and it just didn’t work out for neither of us. We weren’t able to get a job because we were busy with the weddings (ours and my husbands sister), then we would have had to move to Mexico city because in the city where we were there just weren’t any jobs for me.

I don’t see it as a failure though; I enjoyed my experience there, I came from literally zero Spanish to now being able to have day to day conversations, we got married and had our perfect wedding, and finally my parents came to visit. So some things didn’t work out but a lot of others did. It’s nice to be closer to my family though in Ireland. The weather is crap though, so I do miss the weather in Mexico! But I’ve been enjoying eating lots of white and brown bread.

I’d also like to think we are getting back on course to figuring out where we want to live and all that ‘life’ stuff. Maybe it will be in Ireland or maybe somewhere else in Europe, we will see!

But it’s nice being with my family for a while, with no flight to leave for for a while!

Aisling

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Looking To The Future

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With our wedding and my husbands sisters wedding over, we have been thinking of what to do. As I’ve mentioned before, we couldn’t really sort out jobs because we knew we had our wedding coming up, and my parents were also going to be here for 3 weeks, so we knew it would be difficult to get jobs with these on the horizon. So we made the decision to wait until all these events were over to look for jobs.

We are quite open to anything though. (country wise!) Because we are now married, it’s easier for my husband to live in Europe with me. It’s not 100% plain sailing, but it’s much easier than if we weren’t together!

We were talking and we are in agreement that if Mexico doesn’t work then both of us are open to any country really. My sister in law was very excited telling us about Paris and how she could help us get jobs. We are interested of course, but we need to think of the pro’s and con’s of moving to France. But the option is there.

Another option is Spain. My husband has an aunt that lives in Madrid and I’m sure she could help if we decided to move there. Also in Barcelona we know someone who lives there. So we have options.

I would prefer to live in Spain because I’m learning the language, but I won’t say France is off the cards though.

I think the fact that we lived in China makes us feel like we can sort of survive in any country now, because really, if you can live in China then you can pretty much live in any country! It doesn’t feel like such a daunting task, especially if you plan to move to somewhere in Europe.

But anyway, Ireland is the most viable option at the moment. For my husband it’s the easiest way to get to Europe as all he needs is a visa that shows we are together, so it’s very easy.

For Mexico, it’s on the cards but probably not in the city where we are right now. Mexico city has more opportunities, so I would just have to learn to love the city if we decided to move!

So, as always, we are still up in the air with everything….

But the good thing is my spanish is improving!

So yay for that!

Aisling

My Parents Have Left

My parents were here, and blink, now they are gone. Back over 12 hours on their plane to Ireland. It’s been a week since they left and the day after they flew I felt quite sad and alone. I’d have no one to drink tea with and, as my dad says “talk shite with”.

What I like about being with my Mam and Dad is that we can comfortably sit together and just not speak. Just being with each other and not having the need to speak is a nice feeling. My husbands family second name should be ‘Talkers’ because they LOVE talking. For me, I’m not a lover of talking; it tires me out to be honest. I prefer listening instead. I suppose I miss that; just sitting outside in the sun together and we are all thinking in our heads about this and that. There’s no forced need to talk, which I feel sometimes happens to my husbands family. They are so used to talking that having any silence just feels awkward.

Both of them have good and bad things about them though.

So yeah, I did miss them a lot when they first went. You know all the times I visited from China, I was never as sad as this time they went. I think it was because In China I had my own independent life, my job, my apartment, my routine to go back to.

I give out about China a lot, especially the behaviour of the people, but I really really did enjoy my life there. There are times I think of going back.

Here I’ve been unhappy for the past few months. I don’t have my own independent life, I don’t have a job, I don’t have a place to live with just me and my husband, I have the most boring routine….

(Plus we still have our obsession with dogs and still haven’t got one because, well my in-laws wouldn’t be pleased)

Yeah, I could get a teaching job earning like €3 an hour. But take out my therapist every week which is €11, then my 2 hours Spanish classes which cost about €21 for 2 hours, then thats like 2 days of work just to pay for those!

Then we have to pay for where to live and all that other stuff. So really it’s just not worth looking for a job here. I know in Mexico city there are a lot more jobs, but to be honest we really don’t want to move there. I don’t particularly like the city; it’s enormous, the traffic is the worst I’ve ever seen (and I’ve lived in China) and the pollution can get really bad too.

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Source: google

The picture above is literally every. single. day in Mexico. I’m not joking. It’s terrible and I really don’t like going to Mexico because every time we’ve went it’s like this.

So for the moment Mexico city is off the cards to live in!

Oh I’ve sort of went off topic quite a bit!! Anyway, back to my parents!

From what I gathered they liked pretty much everything about Mexico; the weather, the people, the small towns. Here are some things they didn’t like (mainly from my Dad)

The food: my dad is a traditional man…. so that means potatoes, meat and vegetables. That’s it. No spices, no condiments. Nothing. Just salt and pepper and a bit of gravy on the food. Anything exotic is a no no. HE DIDN’T EVEN LIKE MANGO!! What the hell? It’s like my favourite fruit! He said…. wait for it………

IT’S TOO SWEET!

(yeah, really)

Another thing he didn’t like were tacos. Yes I know this will be a shock to all Mexican people.

He pretty much didn’t like most Mexican food except pozole, which is a soup with corn and that. This is my favourite Mexican food.

Another thing he didn’t like were all the steps here in Cuernavaca. (it’s a hilly city) I understand this because it can get annoying, especially because they are uneven and the roads are full of holes. You need to pay attention to where you are walking.

He was shocked with the traffic too. From China I’ve gotten used to it so I don’t pay attention anymore, but coming from a small town of 40,000 people, it does take some getting used to.

My Mam on the other hand liked most foods, except tamales, which is a corn thing wrapped in the skin of something ( I really don’t have a clue what it is to be honest) I wasn’t too fussed on it at the beginning either but I grew to like it more. They are filled with different things and can be sweet or savory.

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Tamale. Source: google

I think that was pretty much everything that Mam didn’t like. She told me she misses Mexican food and she’s back to the plain Irish food now. (Irish food is definitely not famous for it’s flavour)

But I’m glad that they visited Mexico. I’m disappointed they didn’t get to see China though. See my life and what we did there. I think it’s one thing that I’m going to be disappointed about forever. China holds a lot of good memories and experiences for me that unfortunately they will never get to see.

But anyway,

Aisling

They Are On The Way!

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So after months of waiting, my parents are on their way to Mexico! Last night I didn’t really get a good night sleep. I knew they were going to the airport and my mind was half on them, half on sleep, so I didn’t really get a good rest. When I woke up I got a message to say they were in Amsterdam airport…Phew! They made it to there, and now they are on their long flight to me!

My parents haven’t travelled on a long haul flight since I was 11, so I was quite apprehensive about it all. But thankfully everything seems to be going great and they should arrive here at around 7:30pm. We will drive to Mexico airport to pick them up and we should arrive home at around 10. Then they can hopefully have a good sleep!

Also the weather seems good today. The past few days it has been cloudy and I was worried for the wedding. I don’t mind that it’s cloudy; a wedding in Ireland without rain (even if it’s really cloudy)  is good weather, so all I want is that it doesn’t rain.

I think it’s going to take some time getting used to Mum and Dad being here. For 5 year’s it has always been me who goes home to visit, so I don’t think my head is going to comprehend that they are actually here in Mexico! I’m really looking forward to seeing them and I hope they enjoy themselves.

Maybe they’ll even want to visit again!

Aisling

Is Food Better Quality In Ireland Or In Mexico?

Ireland is known for it’s high quality of food, and of course when you have lived there all your life you don’t really realise or appreciate the quality. I suppose I only realised this when I lived in China and Mexico!

With regards to the food between Mexico and Ireland, I’ve began to realise which foods are better quality in Ireland than here.

Dairy– Ireland Wins

Dairy is of a much higher quality in Ireland than Mexico. The butter in Mexico really doesn’t have any flavour, it’s very hard, and I feel it’s more like margarine than butter. In Ireland it has a really rich flavour and is very creamy. Now I’m very fussy with butter, I will only eat it once it’s completely melted on something, if there is a small blob that hasn’t melted then I won’t eat that bit. I don’t know why, I just don’t like the texture or the coldness of it when it’s not melted. Once it’s completely melted though I will eat it no problem!

Once my nephew got his spoon, stuck it into the butter, took out a huge glob of it…… and put it into his mouth.

I was absolutely disgusted and I felt sick just looking at all that butter in his mouth. We asked him “Is that nice?” and he replied through a mouth full of butter “Yeah”.

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Dairygold Butter is the staple found in every Irish household

Not only is the butter better, but also milk in general is better. It’s more creamy than in Mexico. In Mexico it’s watery and doesn’t have much flavour.

For cheese, I think Mexico and Ireland are the same. Mexico makes some nice cheese; it’s different to Ireland but it’s still nice.

Meat– Ireland Wins

I have to go with Ireland for this one too. In Ireland there are butcher shops everywhere and they are usually family run. They sell all types of meat and again are of a very high quality. In Mexico I don’t think I’ve seen a butchers shop like the ones in Ireland!

In Ireland, if you wanted to make hamburgers, you would go and buy the patties that the butcher made themselves in store. They are fresh and you know the meat will be of good quality. However in Mexico I’ve seen most meat patties are frozen and prepackaged from a  company.

I feel ham is also better in Ireland. There’s just more flavour to them.

Lastly one thing I miss in Ireland are the sausages! I love the sausages in Ireland, and I’m really not fussed on the ones found here in Mexico. I can’t even consider them ‘sausages’ really! Now I might be totally wrong and there are flavourful sausages from Mexico, but from what I’ve seen these are very popular here.

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Sausage commonly found in Mexico (source google)

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Irish sausage (source google)

Bread– Ireland (yet again)

Again, the bread is just superior than in Mexico. Irish people LOVE their bread, so it’s no wonder we make so many different types of it. When there was really bad weather in Ireland last year during the winter, there was a shortage of bread!

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Now I’m not saying that there are no nice breads in Mexico, there are.  . I like the baguettes and things like that, but for everyday bread to make sandwiches with and to toast, it’s just too sweet. I’m pretty sure it’s exactly like American bread. Chinese bread was the same and I never ate it. My husband is adamant that “No, it’s not sweet at all”. But it really is. The only time I eat it is when it’s toasted. Plus it doesn’t go off for like 1 month! Like how is that even possible?! In Ireland bread starts to go mouldy after a few days! I really miss bread from Ireland.

Potatoes– You guessed it!

The potatoes are fine in Mexico, but there are really only 3 types; big ones, small ones and sweet potatoes. The potatoes you find in Mexico are what we call in Ireland ‘waxy potatoes’. They are perfect for boiling and making chips, but you can’t make them into mashed potatoes. These are called ‘Floury potatoes’ in Ireland, because when you cut into them they are dry and sort of floury like. These are perfect for making mashed potato. We have a saying in Ireland that floury potatoes are like “balls of flour”.

Incidentally sweet potatoes aren’t very popular in Ireland at all. I think maybe because they were never eaten in Ireland in the past, and also because we already have a huge variety of potatoes, we never really got used to eating it. I know it’s slowly getting more popular though, but my Mam never used them.

 

Fruit– MEXICO!

Mexico has 1 point! Fruit is much much much nicer than Ireland, it’s cheap and fresh, whereas in Ireland it’s too expensive!

I’m in love with the mangos here and there are different types which I never knew. They also have different varieties of bananas. The fruit tastes very flavourful and they definitely have more types than Ireland.

Vegetables– Ireland and Mexico

I like the veg both in Ireland and Mexico, however Ireland does have more variety. They have brussel sprouts, turnips and other types. Also the cabbage is much better in Ireland. But I’ll give Mexico another point!

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I used to hate cabbage as a child, but now I love it (source google)

I’ve realised this was a very one sided blog! I’m not bashing the food in Mexico at all, but when you’ve grown up in a country famous for it’s quality of home grown food, you really can taste the difference from other countries.

China I feel has the worst quality of food, I heard that in some restaurants, people would order rabbit and the restaurant would give them rat instead. Just take away the rabbit head and people wouldn’t know the difference!

I could do a whole blog about the food in China and how it’s not regulated, but I’ll save that for maybe another time!

(PS) my husband thought it was too one-sided, so to make him happy, here are few more foods that Mexico is better at.

Beans– Mexicans love their beans and there are loads of different types. I’m personally fed up of beans now though. In Ireland we just have the sweet beans in tomato sauce, so Mexico definitely beats Ireland with that.

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One type of Mexican beans (source google)

Corn– again Mexico loves corn, in Ireland we rarely eat it. In Mexico they use corn for tortillas. Again I’m pretty fed up of eating tortillas nearly everyday. I also prefer the flour ones; I feel the corn ones are too filling, they are harder to chew, and  when I eat with them, all I taste is the tortilla and none of the filling.

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corn tortillas (source google)

 

Aisling

Loneliness

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I’ve always been a person who favours my own company. I’m quite happy being by myself and I don’t feel the need to be surrounded by people.

But now that I’m in Mexico… I feel lonely.

I feel lonely because I’ve no friends.

I feel lonely when my family in Ireland don’t write back to me.

I feel lonely when people come over, converse in Spanish, and I don’t understand.

I feel lonely sitting at the table not being able to contribute to any conversation.

I feel lonely not being included.

I feel lonely because I can’t laugh at any jokes.

I feel lonely not being able to do things when I want to.

I’ve moved from China to Mexico and I feel as lonely as ever.

Aisling

My Husband Speaks English TOO Well!

 

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So, you would think that me being with a Mexican person I would pick up Spanish just like that…. well…..

No…. if ONLY it was like that! You see the problem with our relationship is that my husband is pretty much a native English speaker….. only that he looks Mexican and grew up in the country. His English is perfect and doesn’t have an accent at all. He actually never studied abroad or anything like that and just studied it when he was young, which amazes me!

So….. him being able to converse perfectly with me creates a problem when I’m trying to learn Spanish.

When we met in China, I didn’t have the urge to learn the language, I didn’t even know if I would be with him long! Then when it became 3+ years together I thought “Oh hang on, I think I’ll actually have to learn it now”.

While in China, I was busy studying Chinese and I just didn’t want to get the two languages mixed up, so that was the main reason for not studying it. Plus I didn’t need Spanish at the time. So throughout our time in China we always spoke English to each other.

Then when we arrived to Mexico, he STILL talked to me in English. I had to remind him “In Spanish….in spanish..” and then he would say it again. Our relationship for over 4 years was completely in English, so now it was just difficult for him to switch to Spanish. He’s too used to speaking English with me.

So this is a big problem!

I think now he’s getting used to speaking more to me in Spanish, but it’s still very common to hear him talking to me in English. And it would be simple things he would say to me in English and I would think “He can easily just say that in Spanish and I would be able to understand”

I understand pretty much everything that he says to me, so there’s no problem with me not understanding…. it’s just this habit that we’ve picked up.

Sometimes I wish his English was crap so then I’d be forced to learn it, but then I think “Well if his English wasn’t good then he wouldn’t have gone to China and taught English… I wouldn’t even have met him if that was the case”.

We will break this habit one day!

Aisling