Our Little Abode

So I’ve been saying on one of my blogs that I would post a few photos of the mobile home that we are living in right now, so here they are! Now this isn’t a modern mobile at all! I would say it’s from the 1980’s or 1990’s, so it’s a very flowery home! But we really like it and it’s fine for us. (Minus the spiders of course) You can check out that post here: Losing The War (With Spiders)

So the photo below is the main seating area. We brought my old TV from my bedroom in the main house so we are using that to watch Netflix and all that. The size is just about ok to watch from. If it was any smaller I think we would have to buy a bigger one. But it’s ok for the moment and if we decide to stay longer then we’ll invest in a bigger one.

We put the blue covers on the sofas because they are quite discoloured because of the sun. The thing on the right is the heating. This was my Nannys so it’s also very old! It doesn’t give out a lot of heat and we haven’t used it hardly at all because we don’t want to waste the gas.  My Dad brought us the coffee table that he had in a shed.

 

The next picture is the entrance, you see my sister and her boyfriend bought this mobile about 7 years ago when they had their first child, so my Dad built a little wooden patio and that so you can sit outside.

This is our view from the main window.

Below is our seating area. It can sit about 4 people around it. These are photos from when we just moved in, so now my husbands laptop and drawing tablet has taken over half of it!

Here is the cooking area. It’s a great size and there are enough cupboards to put our things in. In the hall on the left is a bathroom, on the right there is another door that leads outside. We locked it because there is about a 2 foot drop as my Dad didn’t put steps there. Down a bit on the right is another smaller toilet and across from that my nephews rooms is there. Straight down is our bedroom.

We have a good sized bathroom. Something fell on the sink so Dad had to cover up the hole, and also we don’t use the shower as the pipes broke when it was very cold weather one winter. Do you see the grate at the top? With the influx of spiders entering, I covered all of these up, so at least I know they aren’t getting in from those!

We actually found out there is a huge hole under the oven though! There is a piece of wood covering it but when my sister said ‘There is a hole under the oven for the gas’ we opened it and low and behold! So yeah, my concerns are right from my previous blog; there are definitely holes in the mobile where I can’t see. A perfect opportunity for those spiders to come in!

This here is the bedroom. There is a little vanity area behind the door on the left with a mirror, and there is a wardrobe beside it. Beside this room, on the right was another small bedroom that could fit one bed, but my sister decided to take the wall away and make this bigger.

This is the other smaller bathroom. We actually don’t use this one at all.

This is the other bedroom with the single bed. We keep our clothes and our shoes here. The main bedroom would have been very small and cramped if they didn’t take the wall away, so now I feel it’s much better! And we have two doors that enter into the bedroom, how lucky are we!

The final picture is the other bedroom between the main bedroom and the big bathroom. My nephew used to sleep here. Now it’s full of rubbish that my Dad put in so we don’t use it. I don’t go in either because I’m sure there are spiders hiding in it! I couldn’t cover the grate in this room so I’m just praying they aren’t entering from there!

So there you go! I’m sure some people are thinking “Oh god I’d hate to live there”, but for myself and my husband it’s fine. Now there are problems with it, and the walls are paper thin so you can hear everything outside, plus the winters will be tough because there’s no insulation, but for the time being it’s ok.

We are lucky enough that my parents have a big garden and that was why we were able to put the mobile here. You see my parents house was built in 1910/1911 by the council. At that time houses were able to have big gardens because there wasn’t a lack of space. Now the newer houses usually only have small ones, but with older houses, their gardens are bigger. I think it was also so that the families could plant their own food. The house was my Dad’s parents, so they used to grow loads of vegetables to sell.

At night time I especially love it! It’s very cosy and if there is a chill we use hot water bottles to heat ourselves up. Plus we have an electric blanket for the bed. We even have wifi throughout the whole mobile! When my sister was here they could only get the wifi in a sitting room!

When my sister had their second child it became too small for them, so that is why they moved, but she tells me she misses living here, she said it was ‘cosy’. And it is.

Even with our eight legged friends as our guests.

Aisling

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Not Much To Say

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I’ve tried hard to keep writing things for this blog, but to be honest I’ve been living a pretty boring life at the moment, and I’ve nothing really to talk about!

Weeks have turned into 2 months of not finding a job for neither of us here in Ireland, so we haven’t been doing anything in order to try and save money. We splurged a few days ago and bought an Air Fryer for €40 so that we could air fry some things in the mobile home without having to go to my parents house. It’s actually great and I would recommend you buy one. You don’t need to add oil so everything you cook is much healthier than using a pan or whatever else. We usually air fry sausages and that in it.

I try and think of the positives of not having a job, and being with the family is a big one. But now I’m just kind of getting fed up now. Not earning any money at all is hitting us too, so we are just trying to be careful with our spending.

I was a bit upset a few days ago because I’ve been applying to jobs and getting rejections and it brings me back to why I left Ireland over 5 years ago in the first place. I couldn’t get a job. So now, being back and yet again not being able to get a job just upsets me. I didn’t expect it would be this difficult and I honestly had high hopes of securing something by now. I feel as if I’m back to when I was finished college 6 years ago and was applying for this and that and not getting anywhere.

Then what annoys me is that I know with 100% certainty I would get a job in China in an instant. I really really miss China, and somedays when I’m frustrated I just feel like packing up and moving back, but now I just want to be close to my family and that’s that. I’d never say China is out of the picture; it will always still be on the cards, but I think it would be like a last resort for us. But I have to say I really do miss it!

It’s hard though. Sometimes I feel it was a mistake to leave China. A lot of things didn’t go to plan and over a year later we still don’t know what we are at. Every path we choose has hurdles so we need to carefully plan what our next steps are, if it would benefit us and what are the obstacles if we do this or that.

But I hope the month of August will bring some good news for us!

Aisling.

No Experience? No Qualification? No Job

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When I was in Mexico, I would be looking at jobs in Ireland and I was amazed at how many there were that I could apply for. I was thinking ‘Aw it’s a pity I’m here and I can’t apply for any of them’

So now that we are back in Ireland, I’ve been applying and with no success at all. All the time spent away in Ireland I always thought ‘Whenever I go back to Ireland I’ll get a job ok. Things are different now and I have more experience’. I was a bit more positive back then.

Now that I’m back it feels like none of my 5 years working in China has benefited me at all. I’ve gotten experience all right, but not the right experience for the jobs I’m applying for. I can’t even apply for a teaching job because I don’t have a CELTA! So I’ve actually loads of experience teaching but I need a qualification to teach in Ireland. So unfair.

I just feel like we are in a rut. Yet Again. This time in Ireland. I’m trying to be positive though and keep busy; I’m still studying my spanish. I know my speaking has gone down though, but I think my verb conjugations are improving and I’m continuously learning new words. So that’s good. Also I do enjoy being with my family. I was very lonely in Mexico so now that feeling is gone and I’m enjoying my time here. We have our own space in the garden in an old mobile home that we live in now. I said I’d post about that one day and I will. The shower doesn’t work so we have showers in my parents house (which I don’t mind at all), and we need to get gas for the cooker, but apart from that everything is great. Well, in the winter it will be absolutely freezing because there’s no insulation at all and we only have a small gas heater, but we’ll worry about that when we get to it.

We also got the internet hooked up from my parents house so now we have our small TV and we can watch Netflix which is great. So I do enjoy having our own space and at the same time I can also be with the family.

I was just surprised at how difficult it is to get a job. Even my husband was surprised, and he has been applying for loads with no success. My Dad always says “Everything will work out”. But my answer is “When will it work out?”.

I don’t exactly want to wait 5 years for ‘everything to work out’.

Aisling

I Do Matter To Old Friends

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It rains pretty much every day, it’s colder…. but I’m getting used to being home again. So last week I met a friend who I haven’t seen since I finished university, and it was nice to meet up and catch up on old times. I have been home a few times but I didn’t meet up with her. I don’t know if this is weird, but I just always felt like ‘well I’ve been away for such a long time, nobody will really want to meet up with me again. They have moved on with their lives and I was in China for such a long time, that surely I don’t matter anymore, they won’t want to meet me.’ Honestly that is what I thought. I still kind of do in a way. Why would they want to meet me again, I haven’t been here, I haven’t been part of their lives in years…. I’m just the girl that they used to hang around with. I don’t matter to people now.

So when I met her It was just like old times; talking about the course we studied, the people who were in it, plans for the future. It was nice. Because I haven’t seen her since I left China, it was like going back in time again. And I suppose it made me realise that I do still matter to some people. It did make me feel good about myself.

We are going to meet up again soon so she can meet my husband. I haven’t met up with any other old friends yet because I still have that ‘I don’t matter to people’ feeling. In China I’ve had friends, but they come and go so quick and easily that it was extremely hard to continue having a friendship with them, especially if they move to a new country. It’s hard to keep in contact, so eventually you lose a lot of friends.

If I’m going to stay in Ireland a little while longer, I have to make the effort to meet up with them, I just need to get this idea that I don’t matter to people out of my head.

Aisling.

I lied!

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So, my last blog I wrote about our plans for Mexico and what not….. was a lie! We have actually arrived back to Ireland at the beginning of June! My last blog was really for my Mum (she is the biggest fan of my blog) and I didn’t want her to suspect anything.  You can check it out here: Looking To The Future

After my parents left Mexico after visiting us, we decided to leave in the next few months. We realised we were in Mexico too long and it just didn’t work out for neither of us. We weren’t able to get a job because we were busy with the weddings (ours and my husbands sister), then we would have had to move to Mexico city because in the city where we were there just weren’t any jobs for me.

I don’t see it as a failure though; I enjoyed my experience there, I came from literally zero Spanish to now being able to have day to day conversations, we got married and had our perfect wedding, and finally my parents came to visit. So some things didn’t work out but a lot of others did. It’s nice to be closer to my family though in Ireland. The weather is crap though, so I do miss the weather in Mexico! But I’ve been enjoying eating lots of white and brown bread.

I’d also like to think we are getting back on course to figuring out where we want to live and all that ‘life’ stuff. Maybe it will be in Ireland or maybe somewhere else in Europe, we will see!

But it’s nice being with my family for a while, with no flight to leave for for a while!

Aisling

My Parents Have Left

My parents were here, and blink, now they are gone. Back over 12 hours on their plane to Ireland. It’s been a week since they left and the day after they flew I felt quite sad and alone. I’d have no one to drink tea with and, as my dad says “talk shite with”.

What I like about being with my Mam and Dad is that we can comfortably sit together and just not speak. Just being with each other and not having the need to speak is a nice feeling. My husbands family second name should be ‘Talkers’ because they LOVE talking. For me, I’m not a lover of talking; it tires me out to be honest. I prefer listening instead. I suppose I miss that; just sitting outside in the sun together and we are all thinking in our heads about this and that. There’s no forced need to talk, which I feel sometimes happens to my husbands family. They are so used to talking that having any silence just feels awkward.

Both of them have good and bad things about them though.

So yeah, I did miss them a lot when they first went. You know all the times I visited from China, I was never as sad as this time they went. I think it was because In China I had my own independent life, my job, my apartment, my routine to go back to.

I give out about China a lot, especially the behaviour of the people, but I really really did enjoy my life there. There are times I think of going back.

Here I’ve been unhappy for the past few months. I don’t have my own independent life, I don’t have a job, I don’t have a place to live with just me and my husband, I have the most boring routine….

(Plus we still have our obsession with dogs and still haven’t got one because, well my in-laws wouldn’t be pleased)

Yeah, I could get a teaching job earning like €3 an hour. But take out my therapist every week which is €11, then my 2 hours Spanish classes which cost about €21 for 2 hours, then thats like 2 days of work just to pay for those!

Then we have to pay for where to live and all that other stuff. So really it’s just not worth looking for a job here. I know in Mexico city there are a lot more jobs, but to be honest we really don’t want to move there. I don’t particularly like the city; it’s enormous, the traffic is the worst I’ve ever seen (and I’ve lived in China) and the pollution can get really bad too.

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The picture above is literally every. single. day in Mexico. I’m not joking. It’s terrible and I really don’t like going to Mexico because every time we’ve went it’s like this.

So for the moment Mexico city is off the cards to live in!

Oh I’ve sort of went off topic quite a bit!! Anyway, back to my parents!

From what I gathered they liked pretty much everything about Mexico; the weather, the people, the small towns. Here are some things they didn’t like (mainly from my Dad)

The food: my dad is a traditional man…. so that means potatoes, meat and vegetables. That’s it. No spices, no condiments. Nothing. Just salt and pepper and a bit of gravy on the food. Anything exotic is a no no. HE DIDN’T EVEN LIKE MANGO!! What the hell? It’s like my favourite fruit! He said…. wait for it………

IT’S TOO SWEET!

(yeah, really)

Another thing he didn’t like were tacos. Yes I know this will be a shock to all Mexican people.

He pretty much didn’t like most Mexican food except pozole, which is a soup with corn and that. This is my favourite Mexican food.

Another thing he didn’t like were all the steps here in Cuernavaca. (it’s a hilly city) I understand this because it can get annoying, especially because they are uneven and the roads are full of holes. You need to pay attention to where you are walking.

He was shocked with the traffic too. From China I’ve gotten used to it so I don’t pay attention anymore, but coming from a small town of 40,000 people, it does take some getting used to.

My Mam on the other hand liked most foods, except tamales, which is a corn thing wrapped in the skin of something ( I really don’t have a clue what it is to be honest) I wasn’t too fussed on it at the beginning either but I grew to like it more. They are filled with different things and can be sweet or savory.

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Tamale. Source: google

I think that was pretty much everything that Mam didn’t like. She told me she misses Mexican food and she’s back to the plain Irish food now. (Irish food is definitely not famous for it’s flavour)

But I’m glad that they visited Mexico. I’m disappointed they didn’t get to see China though. See my life and what we did there. I think it’s one thing that I’m going to be disappointed about forever. China holds a lot of good memories and experiences for me that unfortunately they will never get to see.

But anyway,

Aisling

Getting Used To The City

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When I first came to Mexico and the city where I am staying with my in-laws, I didn’t really feel comfortable here. I wanted to try out Mexico city; there are lots of things to do, there are more foreigners, there are cheaper places to learn Spanish, and it will be easier to get a job. Although I really like Cuernavaca, where I am now…. I just thought that I would enjoy Mexico city more.

For the past few weeks now however, my attitude is changing! I think I’m settling in more and I’m getting more comfortable with my surroundings.

I know where I can buy medicines in the pharmacy, I know where the doctors and dentists are. I know which restaurants I can go to for cheap food. I know where I can get things photocopied, I know (pretty much) the layout of the centre. I know how to get to my therapist and to my spanish classes. I know more roads and where they lead to…

Although the city is much quieter than Mexico, I’m starting to like it more and more. Before I didn’t really want to find a job here, but now that I’m more familiar with the area, I feel that I actually could stay here if both of us found jobs. We’d have to rent somewhere if we plan on staying longer so that is something we would need to think about!

But at the moment, In the city I just don’t really see a job here for me. Maybe I’ll be teaching English (yet again), but there aren’t too many schools around here, except drastically overpriced schools for spanish learners.

But as always, everything isn’t concrete, so we’ll see what happens when the time comes!

Aisling